Sharing Highs and Lows

A few weeks ago, Rich Melheim gave a message at my church that discussed the importance of sharing highs and lows together as a family.

Rich told us to try it out. He said: at night, before bed, share highs and lows, share Scripture, and pray together, reflecting on those highs and lows and -perhaps – the Scripture.

Before this message, my wife and I were already saying a nightly prayer with our son before bed, but we didn’t ask each other what our highs and lows were of the day. I wasn’t sure how valuable this process could be with a 5-year old who was more interested in talking about monster trucks than how my day went.

As Jesus calls us to be a model for others, in our actions and behavior, my wife and I decided to give this a try. And, while I didn’t realize it at the time when I first heard this message, this sharing of nightly highs and lows has allowed my wife and I to model open communication with our son.

This didn’t hit me until during a recent session of highs and lows, my normally “all-about-me”-focused son (entirely normal for a 5-year old, don’t get me wrong) asked me: “What was your high today, Daddy?”

It certainly took me a few seconds to compose myself before I could joyously tell my boy about my day.

Whether you believe in God or not, this is a wonderful way to develop familial relationships (especially at an early age). Indeed, I believe the family that prays together, stays together. I now also believe that the family who shares highs and lows, can soften life’s blows.

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In May, 2005, Rob was a secular, Jewish, thirty-something, Los Angeles, personal injury attorney whose idea of getting up early on a Sunday was getting up for the third quarter of the first televised, NFL games.

Thirsting on the idea of playing in a band for the first time in a decade, Rob finally accepted his neighbor's request to get up at seven-in-the-morning on Sundays in order to participate.

Eleven months later, his world was turned upside down by Jesus. Instantly, he began leading songs on the worship team and was the worship leader from 2010-2022.

Rob is now the worship leader at Calvary Chapel Malibu. He released his fifth album “The Author of My Story” on December 15, 2023, available on all of your favorite streaming platforms… and he is preparing to launch a new Christian teaching podcast called “Christ Supremacist.”


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