The simplest infant adoption reform…

It is no secret that the infant adoption system that acts a lot like one big baby supermarket is in need of some major reform. An article I read today here proposes the simplest of reforms that could (and should) be immediately made mandatory.

I am sure that some adoption agencies make clear to prospective adoptive parents that a “match [between adoptive parents and a mother considering adoption] is just a possibility.” And, I am sure that some adoption agencies make clear to mothers considering relinquishing their child that inaction on the part of prospective adoptive parents (in not preparing a nursery, or failing to call the child “theirs”) has absolutely nothing to do with the prospective adoptive parents being committed to the child.

The problem is that I fear that most (our agency included) do not do this very simple thing that will keep various, negative emotions (like feelings of entitlement, feelings of anger, feelings of guilt, feelings of being cornered/forced to relinquish, among others) in check.

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In May, 2005, Rob was a secular, Jewish, thirty-something, Los Angeles, personal injury attorney whose idea of getting up early on a Sunday was getting up for the third quarter of the first televised, NFL games.

Thirsting on the idea of playing in a band for the first time in a decade, Rob finally accepted his neighbor's request to get up at seven-in-the-morning on Sundays in order to participate.

Eleven months later, his world was turned upside down by Jesus. Instantly, he began leading songs on the worship team and was the worship leader from 2010-2022.

Rob is now the worship leader at Calvary Chapel Malibu. He released his fifth album “The Author of My Story” on December 15, 2023, available on all of your favorite streaming platforms… and he is preparing to launch a new Christian teaching podcast called “Christ Supremacist.”


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