Our Kids Know More Than We Think

We adopted A.J. at 11 days old, and it was my wife’s and my goal to use “adoption language” easily and freely, without hesitation, so that A.J. never feels like it is a taboo subject.

Last Saturday, 6-year old A.J. and I had a nice Father-Son day where we shared a movie (Escape From Planet Earth, which was a lot of fun by the way), some popcorn, and some frozen yogurt. On the car ride to the theater, our discussion led to families and how they are different, and I had an opening to talk about adoption.

After we talked about how our little family was made, I told A.J. if he ever had any questions about adoption in general or his own adoption, he could ask anytime. I thought that would be it.

“Yeah, I saw that sign at the fire station,” he said.

Surprised, I took a moment to think about what he meant.

The day before we had taken photographs in front of a local fire station for a school project. Suddenly, it hit me. He must have seen a “safe haven” picture, but I was surprised that he would make the connection between this and adoption.

“Yes,” I told him. “The fire department is a great way for Mommys and Daddys who can’t take care of their own kids to help someone else become a Mommy and Daddy.”

There were no more words about adoption after that, but I went away realizing how deeply our kids think at such a young age and how important it is to respect that.

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In May, 2005, Rob was a secular, Jewish, thirty-something, Los Angeles, personal injury attorney whose idea of getting up early on a Sunday was getting up for the third quarter of the first televised, NFL games.

Thirsting on the idea of playing in a band for the first time in a decade, Rob finally accepted his neighbor's request to get up at seven-in-the-morning on Sundays in order to participate.

Eleven months later, his world was turned upside down by Jesus. Instantly, he began leading songs on the worship team and was the worship leader from 2010-2022.

Rob is now the worship leader at Calvary Chapel Malibu. He released his fifth album “The Author of My Story” on December 15, 2023, available on all of your favorite streaming platforms… and he is preparing to launch a new Christian teaching podcast called “Christ Supremacist.”


  1. Just let me know which song(s), and I would be happy to email you a chord sheet!